-Reveals Why Celebrity Marriages Are Failing
By ISAAC DANIEL
Celebrate and multiple award winning publisher, prolific author, music and arts promoter, and renowned cleric, Dr. Dennis inyang, has disclosed that most failures in today’s marriage, especially among celebrated couples is due to the unrealistic pursuit of compatibility, which according to him is a mirage, and doesn’t exist, as widely believed.
Dr. Inyang, who is also the Apostle Overseer of Sureword Churches Worldwide, stated this thought-provoking statement recently while speaking on why celebrity marriages are easily packing up presently without remedy, during his pre-marital message on his 35th marriage anniversary to his multiple award-winning Gospel artiste, Dr. (Mrs) Aity Dennis, aka Aity Dennis. Dr. Inyang decried that this misleading focus on compatibility has kept many eligible singles in the unpleasant prison of singlehood unjustly.
“That is why many are still single. They are looking for compatibility, Physical compatibility. Emotional compatibility. Psychological compatibility. Financial compatibility. Professional compatibility. Sexual compatibility. Even spiritual compatibility”, he fulminated.
To throw more light on this, he recounted the story of a couple he met on campus. “Fred and Sylvia thought they had found it! Everyone thought so, too, including me. On campus, they were 5&6! It was as if God created them for each other, to the finest details.
“Then they got married and everything changed. Less than ten years down the line, they were divorced. What!!! What happened to compatibility?
“The truth is that there is no real compatibility outside of marriage. Compatibility is what you work out within your marriage. That magical compatibility that some are looking for is an illusion.
Dr Inyang, who is an erudite marriage counselor profess that for any marriage to succeed the couple have to work on themselves to be compatible to their partner. “To have a lasting marriage, you must make yourself compatible with your spouse. I repeat: you must make yourself compatible!
“Compatibility is becoming flexible enough to adjust to your spouse daily. It is adjusting to change and through change. And we are faced with those changes every day.
He further explained that “Compatibility is understanding that you and your spouse are different and striving to accommodate that difference.
“If you are looking for compatibility, you won’t find it anywhere untill you are ready to work for it.That is what I have learned after 35 years of a blissful marriage.
On why successful couples find it difficult to keep their marriage? Dr. Inyang stated that “It’s common to hear of celebrities who are filing for divorce or billionaires who are in their third marriage. He hinted that the root cause failure of celebrity marriages is lack of faithful decision between the couples involved.
“Many years ago, someone told my wife that he was surprised that we are still together as husband and wife with all her fame.
The reality is that success gives you options, whether you are a movie star, a billionaire entrepreneur or a mega church pastor. You have arrived at a place where you can choose to remain faithful to your spouse or succumb to the lure of vanity.
“Men generally appear to handle success better than women. Generally! But that may also be because a lot of men do not know how to handle successful women. If you are a successful couple, the first thing to do is to apply the Platinum Rule: treat your spouse the way he/she wants to be treated”, he admonished.
“I treat my wife as the star she is. Everyday and everywhere! I am the leader of her fan club and celebrate all her laurels. There is nothing worse for celebrities than to enjoy the adulation of fans outside but be treated like nonentities at home.
“My wife returns the gesture in kind. She does not just respect but reveres me as her husband and her pastor. She knows how to switch hats, from wife to member and protégé. She knows when to ask for a kiss and when to kneel for a blessing.
Dr. Inyang finally implores Celebrity couples to be wise and treat their partners right for their marriage to succeed. “People have rebelled against whatever makes them feel diminished, including marriage. So successful couples who desire a lasting marriage must learn to treat each other right.
